When someone gets married, they most likely feel that their relationship is secure and that infidelity is not an option for them.
You and your spouse seem to be very busy people and the house is now becoming cluttered and neither one of you can make time to clean it. Or you may need a little help handling the children. So what do you do? The most logical answer here is to hire someone to help take away some of the stress. Now days, many married couples are already determined not to hire someone who is “too” attractive. Now, why would someone who is so secure in their marriage refuse to hire a person who may lead their partner astray?
The answer is not so simple. There could be many reasons a married woman or man cheats. And cheating does not necessarily mean physical intercourse. According to an article from the New York Post in 2015, infidelity is more likely to happen when more opportunities to cheat occurs. And just like in the chart above, the survey shows some causes for infidelity between a man and woman.
I personally believe in equal opportunities for everyone. However, when it comes to marriage, I don’t think I could ever hire an attractive woman to come into my home and clean. And I believe Alyssa Siegel said it best in her article in the Psychology Tomorrow Magazine, where she stated that reasons for affairs are either emotional, physical, or practical. And let’s all be honest, just because we get married does not mean we don’t have eyes. We are all still capable of being attracted to another person that is not our significant other. And I’m not saying that we will act on these emotions, but when put into certain situations (hiring a maid or home helper), then that presents bigger opportunities.
It’s not a matter or feeling insecure, but it is better to be safe than to be sorry. You are hiring a stranger to spend majority of their day in your home. Why put yourself in a situation that might not have a great outcome?
“Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.”
John C.Maxwell
It’s easy to say that you trust your husband or wife, but do you trust this stranger? At the end of the day, you are only in control of your actions.
So, as much as I would like to say hire that drop dead gorgeous maid or that steamy hot pool guy, it might be wise to reconsider.
SOURCES
https://nypost.com/2015/11/29/listen-to-science-dont-hire-a-hot-nanny/
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